Best Dating Advice for Men Each Guy Must Know

An innate urge to date leaves us prone to choosing wrong partners or perhaps engaging into wrong relationships due to inexperience and lack of viable options. While each should be complete by himself, dating and mating is a mandatory prescription that nature has been mercilessly enforcing since beginning of life.

Our instincts innately call for reproduction, our emotions bare unfulfilled desires tracing from childhood and our conscious mind seeks comforting partnership. Choosing partners can involve all of the above.

Though we are always looking for the most attractive mate to date!

Though you should care about others, acting in your best interests when dating is critical.

Intriguingly enchanting, emotional and attractive, women can be relentless and ruthless at the first signs of menace to their offspring.

They complement our life with emotions that are otherwise inconceivable from within.

Women are biologically designed to produce the offspring that has high survival abilities. Being their greatest investment, offspring induces women to be relentless when choosing their mating partner.

Historically having sex is riskier for women than for men. It forms the appropriate mating and dating strategies.

Having sex exposes women to:

• Getting pregnant and extremely vulnerable for 9 months
• Limited mobility and severe vulnerability in the last months of pregnancy
• Weak genes from a man compromises offspring's chances for prosperity

Even though widely available contraceptives partially eliminate the risk, emotional sensitivity is still deeply wired into female brain circuitry.

Men have biological directive to spread the semen while remaining uncommitted. While it's not tolerated in our society, this behavior is still part of male brain circuitry.

These biological differences make dating approach so different for women and men.

Provider vs Lover

When dating, women put men in two major categories: Providers and Lovers. Also known as Dads and Cads.

Dads are the ones that women consider for long-term dating. They are ideal for forming families and raising children. In that sense these men are providers, not specifically financially, but more as reliable and faithful partners.

Cads are the ones women find attractive for mating short-term. This is Mr. Right Now as oppose to Mr. Right! Women are attracted to these men physically, because they tend to be more dominant and charismatic than their caring counterparts. The vulnerability for such an attraction gradually increases with follicular phase of menstrual cycle and picks up around ovulation.

However with the end of follicular and beginning of luteal phase women begin to crave the comfort. That's when a warm and comforting partner becomes handy.

Cater to Women's Needs

Social pressure forces women to stay monogamous and date only one man at a time, at least publicly! Use this to your advantage. Show your ability to be dual-faceted!

Several studies show that women's mate preferences shift depending on their menstrual cycle phase. Ideally, women would want best of two worlds in one man -- an ideal lover and a warm caring partner.

Be him!

Yes that's how simple it's in theory.

In reality though you need to make some choices. If she is your girlfriend, be aware and track her cycle. Show a bit of dominance and even slight indifference when she is approaching her ovulation. Be more comforting and warm in the two weeks following ovulation.

If she is someone you are just starting to date and you have no way of tracking her cycle, watch her behavior and do your best to cater to her emotional needs.

One of the effective strategies women often employ is widely criticized in our society. It involves using Cads for mating while keeping Dads for raising! We don't have to endlessly discuss the moral side of this female trait, but being aware of it will do you only good!

Make a Choice

Do you want to purely be a Dad accepting the fact that she is not so physically attracted to you as you truly desire? However, solely being a Cad might not cater to your own emotional needs, because regardless of how tough men think they are, we need emotional connection as well.

Perhaps a combination of the above will be our best option as well.

Sexual attraction from women is a privilege for Cads. But while Dads miss out on the physical aspect of the relationship, they get exclusive emotional attention.

Both characters are more abstract than real. Sitting on the opposite sides of the spectrum, they identify absolutes. In real life, we have mixed traits. Thus finding perfect proportions for a specific woman is a tedious process.

I always considered Cad traits critical in the beginning of a relationship while demonstrating an attentive Provider later.

Frame yourself appropriately

There is nothing worse than being one man and presenting yourself as another thus creating a greatest mismatch and incongruence. In order to attract women you have to show genuity and authenticity regardless if you frame yourself as "Dad" or "Cad".

If you're going with either of those, for a successful intimate relationship(long or short term) you have to attract woman SEXUALLY! You have to show her you possess those "Lover" traits she is looking for.

Never place a woman on a pedestal or above yourself

Western society tells us what? Women are equal to men and vice-versa. Well follow this rule and treat them the same. Don't bend your knee, but also don't be arrogant and cocky conveying any kind of superiority over women, because they are the same human beings and require respect regardless of their nature or behavior.

Watch how you sound when you talk to them

Do you inadvertently start sounding timid or quiet when you are around attractive women? They easily pick on those cues and could easily tell you're not used to talk to women in a seductive tone.

Watch your vocal tonality, is it flat, do you project your voice when you talk to them? Do you start your utterance at low pitch and finish at a higher pitch placing an inflection at the end of the sentence even though it is not a question?

This is all important when communicating with women.

Don't be a people pleaser aka Nice Guy

While most people "adore" these kind of people, they only do so because these people make them feel comfortable. Women in particular will feel comfortable around Nice Guys, but they would never be attracted to them.

Instead be polarizing. Don't be afraid to speak your mind and convey your true personality even if she may disagree. If you truly disagree with her, then state it!

This is a Comfort vs Value battle. You have to give her enough of each depending on her blueprint. For example more dominant and confident women would be looking for value while more submissive women are looking to be comforted.

Don't ever get pissed at a Woman

This is same as getting angry at the weather or complaining that the sun is setting down too early... You get the point. Mother nature made women the way they are and all that is left to do is to accept it.

In fact if women weren't the way they are, would we be able to reproduce successfully?

Woman's mood and behavior is significantly affected by her menstrual cycle. Understand that and learn to work with it. If this is your girlfriend or someone you have been dating for sometime, then track her cycle.

I am serious. Knowing where she is at in her cycle would make your life so much easier.

Choose abundance over scarcity

It is reverse psychology. When women feel that you have abundance of women satelliting you constantly, they will inevitably be more attracted to you subconsciously assuming that you possess high survival value.

Surround yourself with women. Whether they are your friends, co-workers, classmates, neighbors, people from yoga class, friends of friends. You will learn by just observing them and they will also make you desensitized and comfortable to being among women. Being comfortable around women will raise your confidence level with them!

Expand beyond your social circle

Do not concentrate all your efforts within your social circle because that limits your choice. Keep looking for ways to expand beyond it. There is a variety of options:

• Sign up for a new hobbie which has broad female audience
• Try social dancing or even a salsa class
• Get yourself exposed to situations where interacting with women is inevitable. Perhaps getting a part-time job in service industry
• Try to cold approach a woman

Yes try to cold approach a woman in a shopping mall, concert or night venue. This requires highly calibrated communication skills, but guess what -- your skills will improve after each approach, so why not start now?

Experience abundance first to see how it feels. Because it will help you later when you will be settling for monogamy!

Invest in yourself rather than waste time on meaningless relationships

Now right off the bat, this is only applicable to relationships that you feel deep inside won't lead to anything but pain or destruction to yourself! If you are with a woman that is worth your time and effort, then by all means, keep strengthening that relationship!

However if you are with a woman that is not what you want and deep inside you know that the only reason you're not leaving her is that you're afraid you won't find another one due to the lack of options, personal insecurities and low self-esteem, then you OWE IT TO YOURSELF to take this step into UNKNOWN and throw yourself onto the scary Sexual Marketplace even though you hang a really low price-value tag on yourself.

Preferring solitude, investing in and constantly improving yourself is a better long-term strategy than settling for mediocrity due to the lack of options!